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04Jan 2025

Perfume and scent for my home

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I love wearing gorgeous perfumes and many years ago I used to have just three as a signature scent, but these perfume houses keep releasing more and more lovely perfumes that I now have a scent library as do many ladies.  It’s nice to select something depending on my mood and how I want to project.  Some fragrances are very high end and well known, some are made by tiny perfume houses, very niche, vegan and not so expensive and sit close to my skin.

Here are some of my favourites:

Tom Ford: Tobacco Vanille, Lost Cherry, Velvet Orchid & Black Orchid

Creed: Love in White Summer and Love in Black

Penhaligon’s: The Revenge of Lady Blanche and Empressa

Dior: Hypnotic Poison

Jean Paul Gaultier: Madame, Scandal original and Red version

Ghost: Deep Night and Orb of Night

Lush: Death and Decay and Twilight

Haus of Hecate: Witches, Southern Gothic, Etheral, Wooden Doll and Little Bat

There are several more that I have worn over the years that sadly are no longer available, Midnight Poison by Dior is one.  Angel by Thierry Mugler I was once very faithful to (it’s still around) Coco Chanel I once loved but got bored with it

One brand I can not wear is Calvin Klein, whilst everyone used to lust over Obsession, it used to smell like fly spray on me! Disgusting stuff.

I also love to receive a monthly subscription from Lush (£35) if there is a sub out there wanting to send regular scent treats then get in touch to send each month and adopt this bill.

Scent for my home: Cherry Bakewell diffuser by Devon Wick  and any by Haus of Hecate

Scented soy candles from Apollo Ipsum (anything Gourmand is best) and The Cabinet of Curiosities )Dark Honey & Tobacco)  both have online shops

 

Do you have a favourite scent that you love, especially to smell on a Mistress?

 

You can send for Me to spend:

  1. via My Revolut @mhrtherapy https://www.revolut.com/
  2.  https://www.tipfunder.com/MsHelenRyder
  3. Amazon Gift Code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com (bought online or from supermarkets, I require the code off the scratch off panel)

Do not ask Me for any other form of payment.

 

 

 

 

04Jan 2025

Happy New Year 2025

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Wishing you all a Happy 2025 and giving you some general news and updates.

I have already got this year off to an amazing kickstart with My wonderful loyal boi slavvarodda (as he is known on X) a super CP session, broken into two parts with lunch at a local pub in the middle.  He wore panties under his trousers, after lunch he received some more CP and then onto My bondage bed for nipple torment and the wand, making him milk himself off as the grand finale 🙂 then a chat/unwind and an expresso to set him up for his journey home to London.

I have made a slight change to My booking procedures,  still too many ungenuine that don’t follow through with paying a deposit.  ALL new contact or people I haven’t seen for over 3 months must send an application fee of £30 one of My methods below (comes off final balance when you attend) if for any reason you do not attend then you can have a phone chat with me if we haven’t spoken.  The only replies to emails without the fee already sent will only be a hyperlink with what I expect and no other discussion until I have received it.  There are no refunds on any payments, blog link below. https://www.mistress-helen-ryder.co.uk/booking-procedures-and-deposit-information/

Today I posted up on My LoyalFans I have decided for all of January I will post almost daily or every couple of days the outfit I am wearing to include lingerie etc.  Today is Agent Provocateur lingerie and only available to those who subscribe to Me.  https://t.co/l6pwUwqQ5N

I know it’s brass monkeys outside, rest assured My playroom is well heated for both Our/our pleasures and play and is warmer up there than it currently is downstairs!  You will be eager to strip off in there and I will remove any woolly jumpers over My fetish outfit haha. I’m quite tempted to just hang out upstairs today, whilst logged into the phone chat platforms.

I am often asked if you can bring a gift along, so whilst it is lovely to receive gifts from you.  I do prefer tipping, this enables Me to pop it to one side if its a smaller tip and collate tips into something that I really desire and often need to save up for.  I have enough alcohol than I can possibly consume and I only have one G&T these days on a Friday or Saturday and do not drink in the week.  I love receiving perfume (from My choice) and will write a blog about my favourites.

When I returned from My holiday in Crete I went on a Keto diet and to date I have lost 1.9 St and I now wear a UK12, I’m going to lose a bit more before My upcoming surgery mid/late March 2025 (I will post a blog when I have My surgery date and post on socials too) Tips will go towards new clothing 🙂

Re My surgery: My surgeon said I will be off work for approx three months, however due to losing weight and doing pre-hab I might heal quickly and may be able to return to work sooner, offering sessions that suit My needs and capabilities. So just keep your peepers peeled on My blog news, X posts and LoyalFans.  I’ve been told I will be wearing a brace from ankle to hip to begin with, those with a brace fetish can pay Me for a photo set or video call 🙂

Scammers: Please note I do not have an Instagram or Facebook page of Mistress Helen Ryder, some person with a weird fixation of Me and way too much time on their hands has been a busy scammer, ripping off every image I have not copyright water marked.  Mistress’s never approach subs or ask you to send any money via any other means than the instructions on her official website.  Do your research!!

  1. via My Revolut @mhrtherapy https://www.revolut.com/
  2.  https://www.tipfunder.com/MsHelenRyder
  3. Amazon Gift Code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com (bought online or from supermarkets, I require the code off the scratch off panel)

Do not ask Me for any other form of payment.

Over and out for now

Kinky wishes

Mistress Helen xXx

 

 

02Nov 2024

Live Deliciously

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Live Deliciously has become My new motto, having watched The Witch (film 2015) again recently and how I live My own life.

  • Spoiler alert if you haven’t seen it

“Wouldst thou like the taste of butter, a pretty dress , wouldst thou like to live deliciously?” This is spoken by Black Philip after being conjured by the eldest daughter at the end of the film

So often on Twitter I receive comments with “I wish it was me” or receive phone chat calls on My Dommeline sighing that if only they had the courage to session in person.  A whole year or more has passed with no booking in site, the desire to session is strong but they don’t take the leap of faith and book/pay the deposit.  Keep putting it off, then another year passes, another year and nothing ….

Suddenly you are several years older and still having regrets for the things you haven’t tried, no one towards end of life ever looks back and thinks “I was too kinky” There is always regret for not trying new things or doing more of what you love (within sensible reason, depending on what that is)

Have the slice of cake (burn it off) wear the pretty dress (sissies)  Explore your kinky side, BOOK your playtime, you will only wish you had done so much sooner!  In fact this is what I do hear from those who finally take the plunge, wishing they had simply booked in much sooner.

The pic below is a photo I took from My hallway of filth (there are lots of fetish framed prints/originals) you may also have noticed that I am watermarking all future photo content as My images keep being stolen and used to set up fake versions on various platforms, it’s essential that you only EVER contact Me via the email address on this website.

So “wouldst thou like to live deliciously?

Well now it’s up to you!

*Want to speed up the booking process, then send an Amazon gift code £30 call cover fee, direct from your Amazon account to My email helen-ryder@hotmail.com or buy one from a retail outlet, rub off the panel and send the code by email.  Please note I NEVER open ANY type of attachments.  As per the booking blog, if you book within six weeks it will come off the final balance of an in person session.  I will give best timings to call Me provided you have sent the call cover fee, otherwise call when able until we connect.

Other payment methods

  1. via My Revolut @mhrtherapy https://www.revolut.com/
  2.  https://www.tipfunder.com/MsHelenRyder
  3. Amazon Gift Code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com (bought online or from supermarkets, I require the code off the scratch off panel)

Do not ask Me for any other form of payment.

03Sep 2024

October time off dates

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I won’t be taking sessions or working the phone chat platforms from 7th October to 17th October inclusive.  I will only be checking emails on occasions during these dates.

I have availability from now 3rd September and up to 6th October and then from 19th October.  All polite email requests in that time that appear genuine will be replied to with my 72 hour window, unless you’ve sent with a tribute and these will take priority!

Best kink & swishes

Mistress Helen

Details to send application fee, call cover or gifts

  1. via My Revolut @mhrtherapy https://www.revolut.com/
  2.  https://www.tipfunder.com/MsHelenRyder
  3. Amazon Gift Code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com (bought online or from supermarkets, I require the code off the scratch off panel)

Do not ask Me for any other form of payment.

 

31Aug 2024

Discretion is a TWO way process!

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Here I am writing an obvious blog instruction some 14 years later that I honestly didn’t expect I would have to write.

I am often asked if it’s discreet, absolutely! My premise’s on appearance to the outside world are perfectly normal, no floggers/canes on display to the naked eye.  No flaming torches with “Dungeon/Discipline/Spanking/BDSM” pointing a big red sign/arrow. I don’t dress in latex or fetish outfits and flaunt it all outside.  Visiting traffic is pretty low key and I ensure visitors park away from where I am and walk a short distance.

I don’t call your mobile or send messages outside of arranged sessions, only in any event of an emergency and then I would be prudent in speech.

If in public we spot each other, a polite ignore is best.

Don’t call Me Mistress on the doorstep, I won’t greet you at the door calling you slave/sub etc, ditto from you please until you have entered and the front door is closed.  I also use the same level of discretion when working from both the Brighton Dungeon and Gatwick Dungeon.

I expect you to never reveal my location to ANYONE else!  This includes not printing out emails with postcode and instructions on.  Thankfully I have the common sense to not give out my full address in messages for bloody good reason!  An idiot just printed out an email to save himself some time logging in (he says) and his wife saw it.  So no session happened.  What an absolute plonker!  Whilst I had a deposit, I then had to take a loss on my self employed earnings due to his stupidity.  To date he hasn’t been a decent gentleman by sending the balance over as a decent person would do.  I had planned his session, put the background work in and turned away another booking.  Shows zero respect for My time and as a person.  Shame on him.

Be mindful of your actions please.

Mistress Helen

Send application fee. call cover of gifts via the following methods:

  1. via My Revolut @mhrtherapy https://www.revolut.com/
  2.  https://www.tipfunder.com/MsHelenRyder
  3. Amazon Gift Code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com (bought online or from supermarkets, I require the code off the scratch off panel)

Do not ask Me for any other form of payment.

 

11Aug 2024

Domination Workshop

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If you want more knowledge in your personal life for fun or perhaps you want to set up as a profession Mistress.  I conduct full day and smaller segment workshops available Monday to Saturday, booked in advance.  Each segment will cover the relevant health and safety to the activity you are learning.  It is essential that you attend a first aid training course separate from the workshops I advertise.

Book your 121 Workshop, this is at my Burgess Hill West Sussex location.  This is a small domestic play space, otherwise if you wish to have your workshop conducted at The Brighton or Gatwick dungeon it will incur higher fees with dungeon hire/travel (POA)

Subjects: Anal play, Pegging, Electrics, EStim and Violet Wand. CP/Impact Play, NT/CBT Techniques/Sounding, Needle & Staples, Bondage, Make-Overs & Sissyfication, Sensual Tie & Tease, Simple Breath Play, Foot Fetish, Edging & Release Methods, Social Media & Web Presence, Personal Safety/Forums/Personal Welfare and setting up as Self Employed.

I also include information and details of the finest fetish equipment suppliers, advice on how to set up a play space, how to conduct a session from first contact from a potential client to completion.

Full Day 11am – 5pm consisting of five-six subjects and short refreshment break £450

1.5 hour workshops to concentrate on a couple of subjects £200

Further telephone support or webcam conversation: £150 per hour

I will supply a submissive player for demonstrations and practice.

Email me with potential dates helen-ryder@hotmail.com

All workshops require £100 non refundable deposit by bank transfer.  Workshops can be moved to one new date with 24hours notice, otherwise you will forfeit the deposit.  Wear regular comfy clothing that you can move about easily in, you may wish to bring along a fetish outfit and change if desired.

06Aug 2024

My likes and your likes

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Mistress you can do whatever you like to me, after all it’s you who is dominating!

What’s wrong with the above?

If I let someone rock up with no prior discussion of likes/dislikes and thought fuck it I will just be entertained today by this sub.  I’m going to objectify him by making him stand on his head or do a handstand against the wall and stick the bunch of flowers I told him to buy on his way to me, up his arse and then ignore him for 60-90 mins whilst I watch a film or something.  Maybe just use them as a footstall whilst I relax and do nothing.  Maybe I might need to vent my frustration and cane someone into next week!

Would I still be in business 15years later?  Like I have been from finding out what makes a sub tick, what aspects of domination are enjoyable.  What aspects are a turn off or hard limit.  I promise to not muddle the list up 🙂 but I will encourage, push you and test your limits.  Taking into account your health/medical conditions, allergies and any phobias.

Lets have an open chat prior to your session, as readily mentioned in previous blogs I do charge £20 for a ten minute phone call to me.  The only time I will ever discuss the nitty gritty of a playtime is via this method.  Or you can call via My Dommeline or Adultwork profile, when I am showing as available.

Best swishes

Mistress Helen

Want to discuss a booking on the phone?

29Jul 2024

Sessions and the future

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First to reassure you all that I am currently taking sessions now and for all of this remaining year ahead.  If I ever needed to reschedule a playtime myself I would offer you a new date and in special circumstances a refund.  My booking procedures still apply when you cancel at short notice, due to the flaky ones.

Some of you know I’ve had ongoing knee issues since March 2023, this is caused from a historic ACL tear (I never had a reconstruction)  I also have lateral and medial meniscus tears. So far I have only needed to reschedule one appointment, which actually suited the person to his benefit.  Usually when my knee is causing issues I don’t have anyone booked in and when receiving enquiries I book people in after a knee episode.  I’m able to assess when I know I can walk normally and work without issues, so that we can both enjoy the session.

At the end of July 2024 I had an appointment with an orthopaedic surgeon who has advised that I really need an ACL reconstruction, and have my torn medial & lateral meniscus trimmed or stitched and floating debris removed.  I am now on a waiting list and it will be some time in 2025.

I could be off work anything from 2-4 months with and ongoing rehab.

It is a rather daunting major operation and could be life changing in either direction.  For the better I really hope.

What I suggest is that if you have ever been wanting to come and see me to session, then don’t put it off!  I’m not sure how long into next year I will be available.  Many of you may have noticed I have had to tighten my booking procedures and take small phone call cover fee from new clientele, as well as ask that those who want lots of chit chat in between sessions fully support my business by paying for the extra time.  This is due to the sheer volume of time wasters that never book.  A brief nod to those that karma will take care of you!  My friend Mia wrote a blog about them, have a read https://www.bdsmmia.com/post/timewasters-a-ticking-time-bomb

Being self employed I don’t get paid if I am off sick.  I’m going to have to ensure I try and set aside funds to cover my time off.  So far to date (in 16 months) I have lost 85-90 days where I haven’t accepted bookings when my knee has been bad.  Imagine being off for that length of time without full pay.  I make dribs/drabs off the phone platforms.  I have approx 8 subscribers on my LoyalFans amongst the over 100+ followers!  It isn’t a hive of wealth as it’s made out to be in the press.  If the free followers that see some of my free posts all paid a sub each month then that would be great and be a better income. Plus give me drive to upload more, it’s an uphill slog at present.  Adult work take off 40% commission as well as a phone connection fee.  Dommeline take 50% but do offer some other incentives/bonus payments at times, so it is my platform of choice.

Only use the Dommeline platform to cold call me with ANY of your questions.  Otherwise email me and pay me direct the phone call cover fee.

Want to discuss a booking on the phone?

If you love what I do then fully commit and support my business.  I love what I do and wish to continue seeing my amazing clients for MANY more years.

Mistress Helen XX

Pic of the pesky knee & my usual smiling face that you will see when you come for your session!

Methods of payment I accept:

  1. via My Revolut @mhrtherapy https://www.revolut.com/
  2.  https://www.tipfunder.com/MsHelenRyder
  3. Amazon Gift Code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com (bought online or from supermarkets, I require the code off the scratch off panel)

Do not ask Me for any other form of payment.

25Jun 2024

Afternoon Cream Tea Shoot and Playtime

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My lovely Gwawr travels some distance to see me and we have the most amazing photo shoots and play dates!  I came up with the idea of summer garden tea party, which turned into high tea by the time we had taken many pics, outfits changes and then up to the playroom for plenty of mischief 😉 some of the things were spanking, paddles, lots of tickle torment, teasing, dildo sucking, pegging, edging and I made sure there was plenty of cream consumed!

There was plenty of plotting and planning, plus collecting up some fantastic props and colour ideas between us, I go the extra mile for my players who are so kind and generous with me that it is reciprocated.

I really love getting creative and doing fun shoots like this, universe please bring along some more! 🙏 I love them! 😍

Here are a few pics of the day, keeping the play ones private for personal use for Gwawr only 😉

Who else wants to release their inner “Gurl” or simply book a session and have some fun?

15May 2024

Want to discuss a booking on the phone?

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Want to discuss a booking on the phone?

Yes that’s fine with Me but I will ask you to email Me first & either pay a small call cover time fee of £20 for a phone consultation prior to the actual booking or simply pay your 50% deposit and then you will be able to discuss in full your session with Me.  You can then provide your availability to commit and then I can offer dates that correspond with My diary.

This simply weeds out those who are not genuine about booking and lets Me focus My time on those that are!  I’m at My best when I know you are serious about coming along to play and creating wonderful experiences with people.

*Note: If I have replied to your email with this blog and asked you to reply when you have sent funds, further emails with questions will be ignored until you have sent.  I always require a phone call as anyone can hide behind a keyboard.  I only conduct correspondence and calls with genuine adults!

Methods of payment:

  1. via My Revolut @mhrtherapy https://www.revolut.com/
  2.  https://www.tipfunder.com/MsHelenRyder
  3. Amazon Gift Code to helen-ryder@hotmail.com (bought online or from supermarkets, I require the code off the scratch off panel)

Do not ask Me for any other form of payment.

 

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