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Just four days into the New Year and My diary is filling up nicely 🙂 I had a superb playtime last night and I’m still smiling!

Today I am logged into the phone chat lines, no clients booked in for today.  Still keeping myself busy with phone work, blogging, SEO and X posts etc….

Here are ALL My links to perfuse:

Mistress Helen Ryder The Ultimate Sussex Mistress’s links (allmylinks.com)

I love receiving tips or money gifts through Wish Tender if you do not wish to send direct to My own bank account and receive more of the money then tipping through other platforms.  It’s also another way you can send a deposit if you do not want my vanilla name showing on your bank account.

SUPER STRICT ON DEPOSITS 2024

Sadly it just takes a couple of bad apples to make Me have to really enforce deposits!  I am posting this to hi-lite why it is essential that you pay a deposit and respect My time.

EVERYONE has to pay a deposit.

I was badly let down by two clients recently, one accepted a reverse bid on AW, booked Me knowing in advance a deposit would be expected.  He stated he would send an Amazon GC without even asking if it was ok.  I asked him to call Me at a set time & pay deposit by a set time and then he suddenly had Covid!  Yet was on AW changing his user name at the height of being extremely ill. He sent a £20 Amazon GC as way of an apology, which didn’t really cover his messing.

Another client who has always bank transferred a deposit booked three weeks in advance, asked if he could pay in full when he came as didn’t wish to use his account then let me down only a day before with Covid!  No offer of any compensation to Me, if I had the deposit in, it wouldn’t have been such a blow to my self employed status and his deposit would have been held against a new booking.  £150 less income that week instead of the £300 loss of income.  So you can see where this is going!

If you are genuinely ill then obviously I do not want to catch anything, however My finances shouldn’t suffer because of you!

Hair salons, spas, tattooists etc are ALL taking deposits (due to being self employed) and some state that payment in full should you cancel at short notice will be expected.  The fact I state I will move your deposit to one new date is very fair.

If you do not have any intention of booking Me or paying a deposit then please do NOT contact Me!  Those who message or repeatedly call without commiting, I will ensure your phone number/email is circulated on time waster and nuisance forums.

I am blocking/black listing and reporting those who mess Me around.  The only way to get unblocked is to write an apology and pay what’s due/outstanding if you’ve previously messed Me about AND pay in FULL for your next appointment.

Wishing ALL My subs, slaves, sissies, kinksters & players a wonderful festive time and thanks for a great year of fun n frolics in real time or phone sessions.  It’s been a blast! 🙂

I will pop on phone chat briefly Christmas day in between cooking/eating and I am around tomorrow Christmas Eve and Boxing Day.

Anyone wanting to pay me direct for chats, should do so first, SEND & then email or WhatsApp message, your name/sent as subject.

For those who are lonely and suffering with MH or can’t afford a chat with me, then do call the Samaritans but keep it clean!

Any of my boys who haven’t yet sent a gift, money tributes are great and will go towards further ink on my arm next year,  Pop Christmas Ink as ref into my account.

Merry Chritmas

Mistress Helen XXX

Dear all

Well we are nearly there, almost another year under our kinky belts and what fun times it’s been 🙂 thank you so much to all the wonderful players who’ve graced My playroom or hired dungeons and had so much fun.

I am away between 23rd to 26th December inclusive and taking sessions from 27th December and up to 4pm on New Years Eve.  Then I am available from 2nd January 2023  I expect EVERYONE  to read My website & send a polite email with brief outline and dates/times in your first contact, lots of very silly messages this week by email with 2 liners and ditto text messaging, ALL of which I have not replied to for obvious reasons!  If your email is along the lines of My own interests and we are compatible I will ask you to send a deposit and follow up with a chat and get you booked in.  Failure to deposit will result in your details going onto the time wasters lists and life time ban.

Going forward for 2023 I very much welcome new clients as well as my wonderful existing base of couples, females and gents to return.  I will on occasions advertise double domme.  With regards to filming: laws constantly changing and the pain of keeping model release forms, Id and such like I have no set plans to start filming with anyone in the near future, watch my website for updates  for any changes.  I have been filming solo POV clips for AdultWork over the last year.

Lots of talk on Twitter about ladies working in the adult industry being booted off, this could potentially happen.  If it does then keep an eye on my blogs for recent pics/info and any links for any other social media.  If anyone spots my photos elsewhere on the net without a direct link to my website, mobile phone number as listed on this site or my Adult Work link then please let me know as my content does get stolen and when I started out I didn’t watermark images, then I started doing so and then not bothered again as it often spoils the look of a photo.  Always make sure the profile really is me!

Thank you for the kind generous players who have treated me through the year, with meals out, birthday and Christmas gifts and the friendships formed even though it is a paid exchange, dynamics grow, friendships form, sometimes it’s just one off sessions for those with a bucket list of Dommes or kink to do, that’s ok but I do prefer the ones who build a great rapport over time.

Every day I spend working doing what I love is like a visit to Wonderland, please keep this kinky Alice in wonderland.

Sending love, light and many pleasures your way

Mistress Helen xXx

I’ve been running a successful business for over 14yrs now, during that time I have seen and heard every excuse under the sun to not being able to pay a deposit.

If you write/ring me & follow up with an email and I ask for a deposit and also ask for your next contact to be that you’ve sent it and there is any excuse that it has not been sent, contact will end there.

Not having online banking set up is always/often one excuse, yet your bank will send over money to any account at your request, you can just attend a branch!

Just over the course of the last week gone I have received 12 emails for sessions and out of those 4 were genuine, who paid and committed to coming.

If you have so much time on your hands to waste, then do some charitable work!  Most charities are often looking for volunteers, make yourself useful to society.

Over and out

Mistress Helen

P.S Thank you to the wonderful people who follow My booking procedures and value My time and their own XX