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In 2019 I will hold My multi slave events as well as attending Malaga with THREE slaves in tow for fun in the sun. I have THREE slaves/subs attending now.  It will be 3 nights away with board/food/all beverages included in your booking for the villa and you are responsible for booking your flights, pick up from the airport can be arranged. Serious enquiry’s are welcomed and we need to have met and played together a couple of times before the Malaga mini fetish holiday. There will be a set daily rate for Moi divided up equally between the THREE slaves. POA with 50% deposit at time of booking and balance in full 48 hours before we depart.

This blog was updated 12th March 2019 to reflect the 3 attending, another trip to BDSM Villa will be arranged in the near future. 

The multi slave event will take place on Monday 4th March from 11:30am to 2:30pm with time set aside afterwards to wind down, have some light food and refreshments.  £230 with 50% deposit taken at time of booking, balance on the day.

The nature of play will include some small periods of confinement, sensory dep, interaction with other slaves if desired. Spanking, CP, EStim, Venus2000 and much more! All boundaries and interests discussed in advance.

I won’t be available 2-12th Jan as I will be having essential eye sight saving surgery, book now if you’ve been thinking of coming to see Me! I should be all seeing again & ready and raring to kick arse from 12th Jan and the double domination date of 31st Jan and 1st Feb with Miss Kitty Bliss is 100% happening in regards My eyes!  In fact if things are still blurry by then Miss KB will be My eyes and it will be a bit like pin the tail on the donkey!  Mwhahahahaha just joking 🤣 🤣 🤣 I will honestly be fine and available again from 12th Jan if not before!

It may well be the end of any prescription specs, I will have some plain glass ones for specs fetish.

One of My chaps was asking what/why so an edit here and further edit for the FULL story:

I have the early stages of a slightly more rare type of cataract in My right eye (caused by trauma) and with a high prescription for long distance and now reading I need a multifocial lens and both eyes having lens replacement cost £6,836.00 and that is with 10% discount given, Ouch………………………

Rather than join the NHS waiting list and (possibly go blind in one eye whilst waiting) and not get the full treatment required for My eyes I have booked this private. 

The NHS will only do My right eye and then only cut My eye open, remove My lens and replace with a monofocial lens. Which will not 100% correct My vision and then I will still need reading specs for close work.  Going private also covers any top up laser treatment.  The NHS won’t do this.  My left eye is also a very high prescription of -7 so it’s not feasible to wear lop sided specs with one heavy prescription and a plain lens with reading varifocial one side or wearing only one contact lens.  The level of My prescription and other complications is making it more complex.  At the end of the day I am having MY eye cut open and lens taken out and replaced so I want it done once only and have the best treatment possible!

Whilst I’m a real time Dominatrix rather than online Findom, kind donations would be greatly appreciated with the high cost of this operation.  Please email if you would like to contribute to My eyes and help Me pay back the finance loan and deposit which are hitting My pockets extremely hard!  Especially with the loss of income whilst I am unable to work.  Another 1K hit to My self employment!

It is after all something very essential to living/My wellbeing and not some daft high end pair of shoes or handbag!

New eyes for 2019 All the better for seeing you with! 😘😘

Mistress Helen xXx

The Lowdown of the person behind it, updated 2020!

I am not usually one to air laundry in public but there are still little rumour’s floating about so here goes.

The woman who caused it was an utter idiot and got confused in a basic exercise at the gym threw a weighted ball in my face instead of simply passing it.  I had been in a laying down position to sitting up so didn’t stand a chance!  My nose was split open on the upper right hand side bridge and I have a scar!  My specs which were only a few months old and cost over £600 were badly damaged.  The eyesight test I had at the time of new specs showed my eyes to be healthy and normal, 6 months after the gym accident showed the damage that had been done. I carried on working on occasions with said person but later on I broke away due to the gaslighting and other weirdness such as ignoring my visits to Yorkshire on social media, doing nothing to promote my visits.  Putting up spiteful posts on Twitter aimed at me stating things like boring and high protocol can play elsewhere.  High protocol because I queried the basic provision of lube or any sterile lube in her premises, she used cooking fat (Trex for sounding) both irresponsible and dangerous. 

She even suggested I wait to get my eyes done on the NHS having rang my partner on return from the clinic the very day of just returning from an assessment! No offer of chipping in at all as she caused it!  My partner was still paying some of her bills at that time as that’s what she does!  Only interested in him for his money.

I tried to be the bigger person and forgive simply for my partners sake as he had been friends with her for many years (she had manipulated him well) but after much shit stirring, general two faced bitching to a friend I introduced her to.  Then waiting outside the loo for me to come out on a group night out to have a word, my patience by then was pretty thin!   She stated my partner thought the air needed to be cleared (this was in fact a lie) as I asked him afterwards.

Another time I’ve had her slag off someone I had admired for her style and hard work in this industry and hoped to maybe work with one day.  In front of other slaves at a BBQ how the Mistress’s photos were all photo shopped and bathroom tiles are not that size.  I’ve now worked with this amazing lady and she is stunning and her tiles are the size in the pics in real life.  Imagine being so jealous bitter and twisted that you have to make stuff up about others…..

Back to bonkers she has no real respect for me or my personal relationship.  Earlier on she had been very friendly and I saw a really nice side of her, but not for long!  She then went on to involve my partner in keeping secrets about something very trivial and told the rest of the word her business.  The other Mistress I was friends with knew it all and slipped up by spilling the beans at an event the other one wasn’t attending. She even sent my partner text messages whilst we were away on holiday being really off to him and disrespectful to me regarding the info being passed on to me. 

I had my friend Jo visiting and bonkers rang to have a go at us because we were doing a photo shoot involving dress’s that actually belong to my friend and trying to tell me how to run my business!  I stood up to her, so did my friend and then she throws a fake wobbly.

Attending a Femdom event, which bonkers came along to just a couple of weeks after surgery and blanked me at first, then chatted briefly.  Was downright rude to one of my friends for something naughty one of her slaves did.  We were all involved in writing up punishments (all in good humour and jest) and she wasn’t having any of it. Ruined the group photo by acting like a fool.  She was really off towards me, to the point of actually giving me some sort of odd Paddington Bear stare across the room, later admitting she had done so because she thought I was giving her funny looks and this other Mistress pointing out I had just recently had eye surgery.  Even at this point I was being polite for my partners sake and knew any friendship was over.  Seriously you can’t make this utterly childish rubbish up!

The other Mistress I was friends with seems to be passing back n forth info so earlier this year Jan 2020 whilst out at a Femdom event in London.  I told her in reply to her offer of visiting her new place that I wouldn’t be able to maintain a friendship built on any foundation of trust.  That the two of them could stick with each other and leave me out of their drama and bitching.  I was sick to death of the interference and negativity and don’t want people like that in my life. 

The funny thing is they have both lied about what each other have said to me, the lady in London felt so bad on her return from a visit there and stated she had joined in on the laughing over Me and had seen a really nasty side to bonkers! That she wasn’t sure if she wanted to go back again (but has) so that proves she is flaky and untrustworthy. The London lady  felt the need to meet with me for lunch and apologise and clear the air.  We did meet and discussed various things that had gone on after that second visit but I was on my guard after that.  I was told how they were all in a group with a slave included laughing about me behind my back, with him admitting I was the brunt of the toxicity at present and it would be someone else’s turn next!  Hmmmmmm well good luck with that friendship as I’m well out of it!

I’ve seen bonkers tear a slave a new arsehole for something she should have taken responsibility for herself.  Having profiled people in the police in a civilian role I am normally very good at being able to see right through people/her where others are taken in.  Suckers!

They do say keep your friends close and enemies closer but I prefer to keep people I can’t trust well away, many miles away and there they can stay!

Today myself and Miss Joanna Armstrong had a new sissy attend for maid training to check out her skills in shoe worship, bottom worship, serving and to see if she had the qualities of being a ladies maid.

Well the little strumpet known as maid Lucy managed to ladder my Wolford stockings! I was very cross so over my lap she went for a good firm spanking. As she wiggled and wriggled she got all flustered and her clitty got very swollen in her satin panties that I had to carry out an inspection.

Maid Lucy couldn’t possibly continue her maids work with such an over excitable clitty, time to have some relief. Down on the floor, she was sat on and the wand came out to tease her.  Pulling her panties to one side, lubing her up and masturbating over a lovely china saucer until she spurted out lots of sticky gooey sissy cream and then she had to lick it all up!

Solo/double domme and sissy training in Burgess Hill can sometimes be rather cheeky and naughty!

We will next be carrying out maid training along with Mistress Firefly at The Sissy Retreat in North Yorkshire on Thursday 11th October.  A whole days event of make-overs, dressing up, afternoon tea and sissy fun.  Visit the website for more information http://sissyretreat.co.uk/

Hello kinksters/subs/slaves/sissies and all

I’m away in Yorkshire from 17th to 20th August and I am available for double domme with Mistress Firefly on Saturday 18th August at her playroom in Leeds.  All bookings with a deposit if you are new through Mistress Firefly.

I am available at My premises in West Sussex the rest of August.

See you soon

Mistress Helen

It’s time to tell you a fact or two, especially to those who have Not respected My time recently

Many of you seek “adult services” and without Myself and the wonderful ladies out there offering such exquisite safe outlets for you to fulfill a fantasy, for you to experience a form of well being and release, some say it’s like having an internal clock reset in your head so that you can carry on day to day, what would you do without us?!   …………

Our time is precious, and if you have been granted an audience with us then ensure you respect it. This entails ALL communication around booking a session.  If a Mistress has requested XYZ of you then do it.  If she has a set of booking procedures sent to you previously and you can’t remember them or find the email then read the ladies website in FULL.

Now let Me share a little secret, I am DOMINANT! This means I’m an Alpha Female in charge of My business and run it My way.  Whilst there is a degree of customer service, it does NOT entail being a puppet on a string or a dress up doll following a set of commands from you.  You sought out a Dominatrix because you felt the need to submit.

I love My chosen profession and I love meeting new slaves and having fun.  When I have a booking secured in My diary I plot and plan all the wonderful activities that we will engage in as I want the very best play in that session.

Potential new clients who mess Me about, promise to pay a deposit and then back peddle out of it after engaging My time via emails and phone call are not treated lightly.  Dommes, Mistress’s and Sex workers talk to each other!  We share details of those who mess us around and blatantly waste our time.  We do not relish in adding people to this list and it is not taken lightly, stay off that list by being the best you can be.  Be polite, be reliable, pay the deposit in a timely fashion as instructed and keep communication to the guidelines given.

Here is a guide to stay off that list and be one of the valued clients that will curry favor and make you memorable in a positive light, both with Me and the other ladies out there. Surely you want to be remembered for being that “fun plaything” for Mistress rather than a thorn in her side!

Do……….

• Be polite, clean and punctual.
• Use the title Mistress or name in your communication. It’s respectful and babe and such like will result in your email being ignored.
• Be clear in your communication, especially if asked for additional information.  Be honest and declare ANY medical conditions!  ANY allergies, If you have a funny turn she will know why.  Plus sessions can be adapted around your specific needs.
• Prepare to bring a gift (most Mistress’s have a list on their site)  or a tip/thank you note.
• After the session send a thank you email, an item from her wishlist, or leave a review.  The clients that stand out as a good memory are the ones who make some effort, and we all have our favorites………………….

Don’t………..

• Don’t send appointment requests if you do not intend to book, repeatedly cancel appointments you have booked, or book an appointment and not show up.  If the session is NOT your number one priority due to circumstances going on elsewhere then DON’T book until you can make it a priority.  If you have messed her about then send some money over to compensate her time along with an apology, this may entail you if genuine sorry to have a second chance and make amends.
• Don’t try and avoid any screening/security methods.  It says that you do NOT respect them.
• Don’t contact her by other means that she clearly states are not accepted, such as texting.  This will result in being blocked.
• Don’t be vulgar or too graphic in your communication.  A pre session chat when you have paid the deposit and the booking is secured will always be available.  Emails that list activities in a vulgar explicit manner do NOT impress Me!  you wouldn’t approach a stranger on the street in this manner.  Manners maketh the man!
• Don’t overstep ANY boundaries that are clear and concise on her website, this will result in you being blocked.  Poor behavior in your approach and communication does not bode well for a session.  How can you be trusted in a session?!
• Don’t ask questions of a personal nature, if over time she wants to share any detail then be honored that she trusts any personal details with you.  Discretion is a TWO way exchange!
• Don’t try and friend her outside of sessions on her private social media, that will be for her friends and family if it’s her private account so ensure you respect that.

Stay on the right path and you could be having lots of fun with a great skilled Mistress that will bring out the best in you.