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I won’t be available 2-12th Jan as I will be having essential eye sight saving surgery, book now if you’ve been thinking of coming to see Me! I should be all seeing again & ready and raring to kick arse from 12th Jan and the double domination date of 31st Jan and 1st Feb with Miss Kitty Bliss is 100% happening in regards My eyes!  In fact if things are still blurry by then Miss KB will be My eyes and it will be a bit like pin the tail on the donkey!  Mwhahahahaha just joking 🤣 🤣 🤣 I will honestly be fine and available again from 12th Jan if not before!

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It may well be the end of any prescription specs, I will have some plain glass ones for specs fetish.

One of My chaps was asking what/why so an edit here and further edit for the FULL story:

I have the early stages of a slightly more rare type of cataract in My right eye (caused by trauma) and with a high prescription for long distance and now reading I need a multifocial lens and both eyes having lens replacement cost £6,836.00 and that is with 10% discount given, Ouch………………………

Rather than join the NHS waiting list and (possibly go blind in one eye whilst waiting) and not get the full treatment required for My eyes I have booked this private. 

The NHS will only do My right eye and then only cut My eye open, remove My lens and replace with a monofocial lens. Which will not 100% correct My vision and then I will still need reading specs for close work.  Going private also covers any top up laser treatment.  The NHS won’t do this.  My left eye is also a very high prescription of -7 so it’s not feasible to wear lop sided specs with one heavy prescription and a plain lens with reading varifocial one side or wearing only one contact lens.  The level of My prescription and other complications is making it more complex.  At the end of the day I am having MY eye cut open and lens taken out and replaced so I want it done once only and have the best treatment possible!

Whilst I’m a real time Dominatrix rather than online Findom, kind donations would be greatly appreciated with the high cost of this operation.  Please email if you would like to contribute to My eyes and help Me pay back the finance loan and deposit which are hitting My pockets extremely hard!  Especially with the loss of income whilst I am unable to work.  Another 1K hit to My self employment!

It is after all something very essential to living/My wellbeing and not some daft high end pair of shoes or handbag!

New eyes for 2019 All the better for seeing you with! 😘😘

Mistress Helen xXx

The Lowdown of the person behind it, updated 2020!

I am not usually one to air laundry in public but there are still little rumour’s floating about so here goes.

The woman who caused it was an utter idiot and got confused in a basic exercise at the gym threw a weighted ball in my face instead of simply passing it.  I had been in a laying down position to sitting up so didn’t stand a chance!  My nose was split open on the upper right hand side bridge and I have a scar!  My specs which were only a few months old and cost over £600 were badly damaged.  The eyesight test I had at the time of new specs showed my eyes to be healthy and normal, 6 months after the gym accident showed the damage that had been done. I carried on working on occasions with said person but later on I broke away due to the gaslighting and other weirdness such as ignoring my visits to Yorkshire on social media, doing nothing to promote my visits.  Putting up spiteful posts on Twitter aimed at me stating things like boring and high protocol can play elsewhere.  High protocol because I queried the basic provision of lube or any sterile lube in her premises, she used cooking fat (Trex for sounding) both irresponsible and dangerous. 

She even suggested I wait to get my eyes done on the NHS having rang my partner on return from the clinic the very day of just returning from an assessment! No offer of chipping in at all as she caused it!  My partner was still paying some of her bills at that time as that’s what she does!  Only interested in him for his money.

I tried to be the bigger person and forgive simply for my partners sake as he had been friends with her for many years (she had manipulated him well) but after much shit stirring, general two faced bitching to a friend I introduced her to.  Then waiting outside the loo for me to come out on a group night out to have a word, my patience by then was pretty thin!   She stated my partner thought the air needed to be cleared (this was in fact a lie) as I asked him afterwards.

Another time I’ve had her slag off someone I had admired for her style and hard work in this industry and hoped to maybe work with one day.  In front of other slaves at a BBQ how the Mistress’s photos were all photo shopped and bathroom tiles are not that size.  I’ve now worked with this amazing lady and she is stunning and her tiles are the size in the pics in real life.  Imagine being so jealous bitter and twisted that you have to make stuff up about others…..

Back to bonkers she has no real respect for me or my personal relationship.  Earlier on she had been very friendly and I saw a really nice side of her, but not for long!  She then went on to involve my partner in keeping secrets about something very trivial and told the rest of the word her business.  The other Mistress I was friends with knew it all and slipped up by spilling the beans at an event the other one wasn’t attending. She even sent my partner text messages whilst we were away on holiday being really off to him and disrespectful to me regarding the info being passed on to me. 

I had my friend Jo visiting and bonkers rang to have a go at us because we were doing a photo shoot involving dress’s that actually belong to my friend and trying to tell me how to run my business!  I stood up to her, so did my friend and then she throws a fake wobbly.

Attending a Femdom event, which bonkers came along to just a couple of weeks after surgery and blanked me at first, then chatted briefly.  Was downright rude to one of my friends for something naughty one of her slaves did.  We were all involved in writing up punishments (all in good humour and jest) and she wasn’t having any of it. Ruined the group photo by acting like a fool.  She was really off towards me, to the point of actually giving me some sort of odd Paddington Bear stare across the room, later admitting she had done so because she thought I was giving her funny looks and this other Mistress pointing out I had just recently had eye surgery.  Even at this point I was being polite for my partners sake and knew any friendship was over.  Seriously you can’t make this utterly childish rubbish up!

The other Mistress I was friends with seems to be passing back n forth info so earlier this year Jan 2020 whilst out at a Femdom event in London.  I told her in reply to her offer of visiting her new place that I wouldn’t be able to maintain a friendship built on any foundation of trust.  That the two of them could stick with each other and leave me out of their drama and bitching.  I was sick to death of the interference and negativity and don’t want people like that in my life. 

The funny thing is they have both lied about what each other have said to me, the lady in London felt so bad on her return from a visit there and stated she had joined in on the laughing over Me and had seen a really nasty side to bonkers! That she wasn’t sure if she wanted to go back again (but has) so that proves she is flaky and untrustworthy. The London lady  felt the need to meet with me for lunch and apologise and clear the air.  We did meet and discussed various things that had gone on after that second visit but I was on my guard after that.  I was told how they were all in a group with a slave included laughing about me behind my back, with him admitting I was the brunt of the toxicity at present and it would be someone else’s turn next!  Hmmmmmm well good luck with that friendship as I’m well out of it!

I’ve seen bonkers tear a slave a new arsehole for something she should have taken responsibility for herself.  Having profiled people in the police in a civilian role I am normally very good at being able to see right through people/her where others are taken in.  Suckers!

They do say keep your friends close and enemies closer but I prefer to keep people I can’t trust well away, many miles away and there they can stay!

 

 

Today myself and Miss Joanna Armstrong had a new sissy attend for maid training to check out her skills in shoe worship, bottom worship, serving and to see if she had the qualities of being a ladies maid.

Well the little strumpet known as maid Lucy managed to ladder my Wolford stockings! I was very cross so over my lap she went for a good firm spanking. As she wiggled and wriggled she got all flustered and her clitty got very swollen in her satin panties that I had to carry out an inspection.

Maid Lucy couldn’t possibly continue her maids work with such an over excitable clitty, time to have some relief. Down on the floor, she was sat on and the wand came out to tease her.  Pulling her panties to one side, lubing her up and masturbating over a lovely china saucer until she spurted out lots of sticky gooey sissy cream and then she had to lick it all up!

Solo/double domme and sissy training in Burgess Hill can sometimes be rather cheeky and naughty!

We will next be carrying out maid training along with Mistress Firefly at The Sissy Retreat in North Yorkshire on Thursday 11th October.  A whole days event of make-overs, dressing up, afternoon tea and sissy fun.  Visit the website for more information http://sissyretreat.co.uk/

Thank you to some of My special bitches, subs/sluts and playthings for remembering Moi Mistress Helen Ryder on My Birthday 24th August.  Presents are still very welcome for those who wish to bring something to session or post via My gift list.

On the 22nd August I had my super slavva rodda CP fave slave take Me out into Arundel for a day out, we had a superb lunch at The Parsons Table. Then a walk around to visit all the antique shops, then back to base for birthday beatings (Me giving of course)

My personal bitch was here for the weekend waiting upon Me (after being picked up from the train station Friday) We had some yummy food in to go with the Rose Champagne and  a fantastic day out in London on Saturday. We visited The Tate Modern and although interesting we did laugh at some of the “ART” A pile of bricks that reminded Me of the stepping stones I am giving to a friend in My back garden! After that we travelled up to see what deviant things we could buy in Regulation.  I have some new evil nipple clamps and a Stinger!

***********Book a session soon to experience both********************

We went on to The National Gallery for some more culture and the nipple clamps and stinger set off the archway metal detector alarm, which I merrily waved at the security staff who laughed and said “Go on through you are so honest!   Wanting to quench My thirst a nice G&T in a nice pub in Covent Garden and then on to a superb French Restaurant for a nice glass of Champagne, followed by French Tapas all very delicious and a superb wine to go with them.

Back to Burgess Hill for a nice relaxing evening, the next day a visit to the gym to burn off the naughty treats and then home to play 😉 I treated My personal bitch to a hot bamboo massage before zipping My bitch into the leather sleep sack with electric butt plug inserted and making good use of all the naughty exposed bits!  You have My permission to fill in the blanks with your minds!!

I have sessions available from now right up to 4th September and then I am at the BDSM Villa in Malaga for a 2 day private party, I have TWO exclusive play times available on 6th and 7th September at the well equipped Villa.  Book your fun in the sun ASAP!  You will need to arrange this by email and the follow up with a phone call before I fly out.  You have until 3rd September the latest to book for this.

Sessions are then available back in Burgess Hill from Sunday 9th September.

I have some dates available in Leeds in October as well as double domme with the gorgeous Miss Kitty Bliss in Burgess Hill in October, keep your eyes peeled for further future blogs.

See you soon

Mistress Helen Ryder

Play Time

French Tapas

The Tate Modern

My art in back garden!

The National Gallery

Painting In NG

Good morning everyone

A reminder that I am fully booked tomorrow on Sunday 6th May as per My tweets on Twitter!

I have ONE space available TODAY Sat 5th May from 2:00pm

I am travelling to West Yorkshire on Monday 7th and travelling back on Sunday 13th May, sessions in West Sussex are from 14th May.

Thank you to some amazing chaps who visited this week and especially to Rodda Slava a cherished slave who came to Me for sessions over 3 years ago now.  Making regular visits for professional services as well as being a fab friend and errand boi.  He had two sessions this week, one being collecting Me from Sussex and driving Me to the Hoxton Dungeon Suite for a multi Mistress party.  Returning Me to Sussex, staying over in the bondage room and heading off for Mistress and personal errands the next day and then returning to Me for a double domme session with Miss Kitty Bliss and then taking us both out to dinner.  He went on his merry way with a multitude of stripes, welts and all manner of colourful badges on his bottom, thighs and some very sore nipples.  I’m not known as the smiling sadist for nothing!  Note: newbs and lightweights I do take limits into consideration so rest assured it’s SSC here.

If I don’t see you then have a great “bonk holiday weekend all”

Mistress Helen XX

UPDATE I WILL NEVER WORK AT THIS EVENT AGAIN!

 

Hello slaves/subs/kinksters

I wish you all a super Easter weekend and a reminder that I am not in West Sussex from 2nd to 9th April inclusive.  Sessions are available in Sussex from 10th April.

I am a guest Mistress on 4th April at The Sissy Retreat alongside another guest Mistress the amazing Madame Caramel!

On 5th/6th/7th/8th I am available to double domme with the super Mistress Firefly and one hour sessions in Leeds are £200.  All bookings and messages to go direct to http://www.mistressfirefly.com  We make a very formidable dynamic team, so don’t miss out and book your play time in very soon!

I’m very excited to be playing alongside some of the best in the business and meeting super new playthings, yes that’s you boys and girls or how ever you identify.

It’s time to tell you a fact or two, especially to those who have Not respected My time recently

Many of you seek “adult services” and without Myself and the wonderful ladies out there offering such exquisite safe outlets for you to fulfill a fantasy, for you to experience a form of well being and release, some say it’s like having an internal clock reset in your head so that you can carry on day to day, what would you do without us?!   …………

Our time is precious, and if you have been granted an audience with us then ensure you respect it. This entails ALL communication around booking a session.  If a Mistress has requested XYZ of you then do it.  If she has a set of booking procedures sent to you previously and you can’t remember them or find the email then read the ladies website in FULL.

Now let Me share a little secret, I am DOMINANT! This means I’m an Alpha Female in charge of My business and run it My way.  Whilst there is a degree of customer service, it does NOT entail being a puppet on a string or a dress up doll following a set of commands from you.  You sought out a Dominatrix because you felt the need to submit.

I love My chosen profession and I love meeting new slaves and having fun.  When I have a booking secured in My diary I plot and plan all the wonderful activities that we will engage in as I want the very best play in that session.

Potential new clients who mess Me about, promise to pay a deposit and then back peddle out of it after engaging My time via emails and phone call are not treated lightly.  Dommes, Mistress’s and Sex workers talk to each other!  We share details of those who mess us around and blatantly waste our time.  We do not relish in adding people to this list and it is not taken lightly, stay off that list by being the best you can be.  Be polite, be reliable, pay the deposit in a timely fashion as instructed and keep communication to the guidelines given.

Here is a guide to stay off that list and be one of the valued clients that will curry favor and make you memorable in a positive light, both with Me and the other ladies out there. Surely you want to be remembered for being that “fun plaything” for Mistress rather than a thorn in her side!

Do……….

  • Be polite, clean and punctual.
  • Use the title Mistress or name in your communication. It’s respectful and babe and such like will result in your email being ignored.
  • Be clear in your communication, especially if asked for additional information.  Be honest and declare ANY medical conditions!  ANY allergies, If you have a funny turn she will know why.  Plus sessions can be adapted around your specific needs.
  • Prepare to bring a gift (most Mistress’s have a list on their site)  or a tip/thank you note.
  • After the session send a thank you email, an item from her wishlist, or leave a review.  The clients that stand out as a good memory are the ones who make some effort, and we all have our favorites………………….

Don’t………..

  • Don’t send appointment requests if you do not intend to book, repeatedly cancel appointments you have booked, or book an appointment and not show up.  If the session is NOT your number one priority due to circumstances going on elsewhere then DON’T book until you can make it a priority.  If you have messed her about then send some money over to compensate her time along with an apology, this may entail you if genuine sorry to have a second chance and make amends.
  • Don’t try and avoid any screening/security methods.  It says that you do NOT respect them.
  • Don’t contact her by other means that she clearly states are not accepted, such as texting.  This will result in being blocked.
  • Don’t be vulgar or too graphic in your communication.  A pre session chat when you have paid the deposit and the booking is secured will always be available.  Emails that list activities in a vulgar explicit manner do NOT impress Me!  you wouldn’t approach a stranger on the street in this manner.  Manners maketh the man!
  • Don’t overstep ANY boundaries that are clear and concise on her website, this will result in you being blocked.  Poor behavior in your approach and communication does not bode well for a session.  How can you be trusted in a session?!
  • Don’t ask questions of a personal nature, if over time she wants to share any detail then be honored that she trusts any personal details with you.  Discretion is a TWO way exchange!
  • Don’t try and friend her outside of sessions on her private social media, that will be for her friends and family if it’s her private account so ensure you respect that.

Stay on the right path and you could be having lots of fun with a great skilled Mistress that will bring out the best in you.

 

The double domination event which was due to take place on 28th March with Miss Kitty Bliss has been postponed to Wednesday 21st March, this was due to the snow as some of you were struggling to get here, please book now to avoid disappointment as limited sessions are offered.

Other news is that I am the guest Mistress at The Sissy Retreat on 4th April 2018 http://sissyretreat.co.uk/

UPDATE I WILL NEVER WORK AT THIS EVENT AGAIN!

 

 

 

Good day slaves/subs/kinksters

What a whirlwind last week! It was bloody good though 🙂 Having caught the beginnings of a cold at the start of the week I dosed myself up on EmergencyC (good stuff) and Day Nurse etc

It was a fun Friday night at Circle of O https://twitter.com/CircleOfO where I got to play alongside the amazing Rebekka Rayner http://www.rebekkaraynor.co.uk/home.html her style of caning is fantastic to watch.

Always fab to catch up with Miss Kitty Bliss (don’t forget our double event 20/21st Nov)  https://www.misskittybliss.co.uk/  

I also met https://www.missharpsichord.co.uk/about-miss-h  a lovely lady whom I connected again with at The Femdom Ball

So FOUR Mistress’s and 6 willing victims to play with, also a sissy maid in attendance to fetch/carry/serve our every need.  I had a really great night and I’m looking forward to the Jan event when I am next in attendance.  If you like to play hard and are comfy being in a group I highly recommend attending a CofO party!

CofO Boot Worship

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Saturday on to The Femdom Ball http://www.femdomball.com/ it was a manic run up to it with little time to get ready, somehow I managed to shower/wash & style hair/make-up/dress in under an hour!  I dread to think what the pictures look like!  Anyway we got there, met up with slavva Rodda and I had my personal slave A with me, two boys on leashes for the evening (greedy Me)   The venue was fantastic and it was super to network with other Mistress’s I follow on Twitter, some super entertainment, sweet sissy maids in attendance wearing the most delightful red lace dress’s.  I missed out on modelling a hat as we were almost late arriving due to London roadworks/traffic but I did try on a T Mistress’s hat that I rather liked. I’m not going to give too much away but what a night!

All hosted by the dynamic http://www.madamecaramel.com/

http://mistress-evilyne.com/

A grand celebration of female supremacy and I won a prize in the raffle (3 months membership for House of Sinn) I will be rather busy perusing the site 😉  The raffle raised just over £600 for https://twitter.com/backlashuk 

I’m already looking forward to next years Ball.

I spent Sunday/Monday/Tuesday recovering and shaking off my cold, all better now and back in sessions.  My voice has also fully returned.

Taxi journey to The Ball

 

Hat