Here I am writing an obvious blog instruction some 15 years later that I honestly didn’t expect I would have to write.
I am often asked if it’s discreet, absolutely! My premise’s on appearance to the outside world are perfectly normal, no floggers/canes on display to the naked eye. No flaming torches with “Dungeon/Discipline/Spanking/BDSM” pointing a big red sign/arrow. I don’t dress in latex or fetish outfits and flaunt it all outside. Visiting traffic is pretty low key and I ensure visitors park away from where I am and walk a short distance.
I don’t call your mobile or send messages outside of arranged sessions, only in any event of an emergency and then I would be prudent in speech.
If in public we spot each other, a polite ignore is best.
Don’t call Me Mistress on the doorstep, I won’t greet you at the door calling you slave/sub etc, ditto from you please until you have entered and the front door is closed. I also use the same level of discretion when working from both the Brighton Dungeon and Gatwick Dungeon.
I expect you to never reveal my location to ANYONE else! This includes not printing out emails with postcode and instructions on. Thankfully I have the common sense to not give out my full address in messages for bloody good reason! An idiot just printed out an email to save himself some time logging in (he says) and his wife saw it. So no session happened. What an absolute plonker! Whilst I had a deposit, I then had to take a loss on my self employed earnings due to his stupidity. To date he hasn’t been a decent gentleman by sending the balance over as a decent person would do. I had planned his session, put the background work in and turned away another booking. Shows zero respect for My time and as a person. Shame on him.
Be mindful of your actions please.
Mistress Helen