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I’m often asked why someone would want to see a dominatrix, especially if the person is happily married or in some form of relationship, surely they could get their partner to show an interest??

Lots of people who come to see Me don’t want to rock the boat at home, they’ve had this interest/kink that goes way back and they’ve tried to bring it up, maybe seen a TV programme and the partner has expressed disgust so they think their partner might potentially end the relationship.  Yet this urge/feeling and fantasy exists and simply won’t go away, they can only suppress it for so long.  I have chosen not to appear on TV or in mainstream media so that My own business stays more discreet and that no one knows why you are visiting Me.  I think there are far too many “Salacious” TV docs/shows that do not truthfully reflect real life, the Mistress being interviewed is under pressure to perform/portray herself on mainstream media in a certain way and the media company has their own agenda.

Some people are simply working in a high pressure environment and want to pay someone for an easy transaction with no messy strings, that’s where I come in as I love to take people on a journey to explore their fetish or fantasy, they can come along to a safe welcoming space, to share this small but essential part of them, with trust and mutual discretion.  I’m not here to break up a marriage, I do not provide any sex.  Many of My clients have found a visit keeps their personal relationship healthy.  On occasions a wife or partner have sent their husbands along with a note or we’ve all met up for lunch to discuss playtime or punishments.  Some of these people have become good friends but also respect that this is My business so continue to book occasional play times..

I have also been asked how I would feel if My partner visited a Mistress, well having been cheated on in the past I would have been far happier if My husband had been visiting a Mistress and having CBT or tens tonnes of S**t kicked out of him or other kink, especially if it made him a loyal person to Me otherwise.

Some gents absolutely need CP and their partner doesn’t want o inflict pain of them or some just keep it a secret and time appointments around home events so that marks won’t be seen.  I’m also often asked not to leave marks, just a red rosy glow that will disappear after an hour or two!

Most of My clients would agree that after a session they feel elated and internally as though their clock has been reset!

A reminder to ALL that I do not have any form of sex with My players, do not ask to touch Me in sessions, any form of touch (as foot worship) is invited and the pre session chat covers mutual interests so that you don’t embarrass yourself by asking for something that I do not do.  I’ve always made it clear that this is not sex!  It’s BDSM fantasy play.

**Edit to add

Due to another email asking if I am trust worthy and will the person be recorded, have photos taken etc

If you can’t see for yourself as mentioned within My website and on Twitter, that any pics taken are ONLY with the persons permission, ALL clips that are on clip sites ALL have model release signed as it’s been a filming day/session and pre agreed.

If you are really paranoid and nervous and have to ask then you are not ready to see a Mistress.  I’m not offended by such questions I just find them unnecessary and extremely tiresome.  I loathe spoon feeding people, unless it’s part of your real time session with something “nasty” mwhahaha 🙂